The 5 languages of Apology

If you receive an apology that omits your apology language,

chances are you won’t fully accept it or even recognize it as an apology.

Those of us who aren’t perfect need to know
the anatomy of a complete and genuine apology
if we want to sustain healthy, whole relationships—or restore broken ones.

Basically the 5 languages of apology are :

expressing regret,
accepting responsibility,
making restitution,
genuinely repenting,
requesting forgiveness.


1) Expressing Regret

“Expressing Regret” is the Apology Language that zeroes in on emotional hurt.
It is an admission of guilt and shame for causing pain to another person.
For those who listen for “Expressing Regret” apologies,
a simple “I’m sorry” is all they look for.

2)Accept Responsibility

For a mate who speaks this apology language,
if an apology does not admit fault, it is not worth hearing.
Being sincere in your apology means allowing yourself to be weak,
and admitting that you make mistakes.

3)Make Restitution

In our society, many people believe that wrong acts demand justice. The one who commits the crime should pay for their wrongdoing. A mate who speaks this love language feels the same way towards apologies. They believe that in order to be sincere, the person who is apologizing should justify their actions. The mate who’s been hurt simply wants to hear that their mate still loves them.

4)Genuinely Repent

For some individuals, repentance is the convincing factor in an apology.Some mates will doubt the sincerity of an apology if it is not accompanied by their partner’s desire to modify their behavior to avoid 
the situation in the future.It is important to remember that change is hard. Constructive change does not mean we will immediately be successful. There will be highs and lows on the road to change. You must remember that with God’s help, anyone can change their ways if they are truly and genuinely ready to repent.

5)Request Forgiveness

In some relationships, a mate wants to hear their partner physically ask for forgiveness.
They want assurance that their mate recognizes the need for forgiveness.
By asking forgiveness for their actions, a partner is really asking their mate to still love them. Requesting forgiveness assures your mate that you want to see the relationship fully restored.


For more information, please refer to this book:
The 5 languages of Apology


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I'm a kind of person that can't express well in my wording.
sometimes my Apology may seems insincere.

But, every time i say sorry
i mean it.

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If my sorry is not enough,
here's something for you.
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